Changes

The only constant in life is change.

It's so much easier when we accept change. The calm and the storm. The point is that acceptance is really acceptance, deep down. Accepting, integrating, trusting, welcoming change.

If change always came from our will, maybe it wouldn't be a problem. But they don't, do they? Most of the time it even seems that our will is not in charge.

But don't I realize more and more that it's very much in charge? It's how we relate to what comes along. How we see what changes. How we embrace what comes and give thanks for what goes. Not always easily, of course.

Relationships, ideas, age, desires, appetites, skills, bodies, cities. Everything changes. Sometimes cyclically, sometimes for good. But nothing dies, everything is transformed. Space is created, new opportunities come in. You lose in order to gain.

It's not always like that. We recognize that every change has consequences. And if sometimes we already know them and don't want them, other times we don't want to risk it. Taking a step forward can be both exciting and frightening.

The point is to follow the internal beacon. Knowing which ones are supposed to happen. Knowing how to tell the difference. Knowing when it's intuition and when it's fear. And if it's fear, it doesn't always help. Questioning, listening (to others and to ourselves). Open your mind and heart to the possibilities. And try to follow what really makes the most sense in each moment.

When we catch ourselves and realize that we're in the internal maelstrom that is resistance to change, we have to let go. We'll always find the shore.

Courage!

And then celebrate!